I'll Be Right There is about caring for parents, offering healthy and safe senior living options, providing caregiver support for individuals in the midst of overwhelm and stress. Available for purchase on Amazon.com and other book sites.
In 2016 Fern Pessin left her business and life in New York/Connecticut to move to Florida. Her mission was to support her parent’s well-being in their journey of aging with grace, surrounded by love while protecting and maximizing their resources.
Overwhelmed at first, Fern realized there was scattered information out there to help guide her in this new role of caring and advocating for her parents. So, she did a ton of research, got certified as a Home Health Aide, attended conferences and classes, interviewed experts, attended weekly support groups and more -- to ensure an understanding of what to look for and do for her parents both physically and emotionally. She sought out a team of experts to help her and her siblings navigate through the financial, legal and medical requirements of securing her parents well-being over the long term.
After accumulating this arsenal of knowledge, she decided to share it with the other 34 million adult children caring for their parents in this country, so she wrote I’ll Be Right There, A Guidebook for Adults Caring for Their Aging Parents. Her goal was to remove the overwhelm that she felt when she assumed the caregiving role and to support other families in their caregiving journey; to help people know what they didn’t know they needed to know when they found themselves in the role of helping a parent.
At the request of her parent’s friends, Fern created a second workbook for people wishing to provide information about one’s own wishes to family and care partners. I’m Not Gonna Live Forever You Know will be available at booksellers late Fall 2019.
As a writer, daughter, caregiver in service to my family, I hope you'll join my journey and share your stories with me as I share my own and fellow caregivers.
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I have always held in the back of my mind an uneasy to-do list as it relates to caring for my mom, especially now that my dad has passed. After reading this book, I know I can take this on. Today that means that I can take inventory of all the paperwork in my safe (which I have been avoiding) and that I can be better plugged in to what my mom may need help with at home (but won’t ask for). Tomorrow that might mean knowing how to deal with a medical situation…or something more serious.
What a wonderful, comprehensive, well-written and (when appropriate) entertaining book!!!! I wish I had it when Mom and I took our journey.
Certainly I will get a copy for all those in my circle who are experiencing caring for their parent with a neurodegenerative disease.
The website also looks like a very, very useful tool.
I’ll Be Right There is from the heart. Chock full of detail, humor, compassion, and love. Fern has captured the essence of being a caregiver, and we know the best advice comes from having lived that role. The book is an easy read, not a classic Rx, and Fern’s style and comic relief allow one to say, “OMG—that’s my parent(s)!”
—Judy Simon, geriatric expert; creator of T.A.P.—The Alzheimer Project (movement program based on ballroom dance) and The Parkinson’s Choir; Former owner A&J Home Care
After more than fifteen years of caring for my disabled father—leading up to his passing—I thought I knew everything an adult child caring for an aging parent needed to know. I’m happy to say that I’ll Be Right There proved me wrong in the best way possible. This book is a wonderfully comprehensive resource. Fern manages to present an amazing amount of information in an engaging yet realistic way. She doesn’t shy from the difficult or sensitive topics and uses her compassion and experiences to guide a reader through what can be a very hard process and major life event. I’m reassured that I’m now better prepared to help care for my aging mother.
This book provides an amazing road map for the reader. You can choose what chapters you need to visit and spend time reviewing. The guidance is clear and relatable along with recommendations and valuable resources in one comprehensive location. Congratulations Fern on taking this journey with your parents and procuring all the expertise along the way for the benefit of others.
—Marie Duquette, Atria @ Villages of Windsor, Community Sales Director
I particularly liked reading about your journey and about dealing with anger. I thought it was only my situation that my husband was so very angry and hostile.
Fern has a nice way of relating difficult concepts into digestible sections. I particularly like the way she addresses driving. Driving while incapacitated (the real “DWI”) is a major problem, especially in cities without a good public transit infrastructure. It is an issue which must be approached with understanding and respect. The tools provided in I'll Be Right There should help readers on this and many other issues. Fern approached these types of difficult topics with sensitivity and insight.
—Scott Solkoff, Elder Law Attorney
Contact author Fern Pessin for a free package on how to use I'll Be Right There guidebook in a caregiver support group or book club setting. Includes visit from Fern for Q&A with the group covering caregiving questions. Reach out to firstname.lastname@example.org.